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"I just had a baby" excuse or real?
Am I the only mom that didn’t have a hard time returning to her prepregnancy routine?? I was having sex at 4 weeks after. cleaning the day after I got home,and doing things along the way that I would do before I had the baby. It doesn’t seem as if many women have this luck,or just choose not to. How often do some women use the "i just had a baby" excuse as an actual excuse to NOT do what needs done? Just wondering lol,not trying to offend anyone. I was just wondering how often the term "I just had a baby" is used just as an excuse,and NOT actually why you’re not doing something?
lol ive never had to use it as an excuse either. i was just wondering,b/c i do think a lot of ppl overdramatize these things.
Exactly,the ones that have c-sections.I can totally see why they had/have a hard time! I’m just curious about the women who had normal births lol. And the sex thing,I can understand that. It,after my first child was born,did take me about 3 months for it to feel good again. I did it.but it just didn’t feel right really until so much later b/c I had a bad bad bad tear.
Oh,I’m not saying that every woman uses it as an excuse at all lol. I can understand how it’s harder on some women,and I feel sorry for you guys. I just was generally asking,because it does seem like some women that I know personally even use pregnancy and birth as an excuse to not get off their lazy a$$es and do much. even so far along after they have a baby!
all right. I wasn’t posting this to offend anyone,I was just genuinely curious! Kirsten,you had no right to be bitchy to me over it. I understand it IS a lot harder on a lot of women,but I don’t understand the women that DO use it as an excuse.
Actually-I’m a mom of two. and after each one,i was up doing the things that needed done. I won’t be in for a "rude awakening". I’ve been here and done this all before. After my daughter,yes,I did take a little more time to recuperate. So yea,I do see how it’s easier w/your second kid.
It looks like not alot of people are happy with this question and the more you go on reading it the funny the answers get My delivery was just like yours and yes i did clean and all that right after but that caught up to me and i wish i would have actually rested more it took me a good 2 weeks to figure that out then i started sleeping with baby and i kinda just did house work every 3 or 4 days i didn’t care to much anymore i was putting house work in front of him getting feed sometimes and i was like forget this he is more important. I did have an episiotomy and i started having sex at 6 weeks and it hurt like no other i felt like i had 2 huge bruises that hurt just by looking at them im 10 weeks now and it still hurts we have to use alot of lubrication jus for it not to hurt i hope this wears off soon using that excuse for the 1st week doesn’t hurt like one of the other posters said people use it more then u use it. Its nice to be pampered how times in a life can u actually have everything done for you?
Angie | Feb 04, 2010
Every baby is different. Every woman is different. My child seldom slept. Other women get hit with post-partum depression, or get no help from the father or family members.
Judging other people’s lives by your own limited experiences is, in fact, the height of sanctimonious hypocrisy.
Tracey | Feb 04, 2010
Everyone is different.
some have hard labors and actually have a hard time after giving birth and some are like you.
no way to really tell if its an excuse or not.
either way giving birth does a lot to your body.
Miranda:) | Feb 04, 2010
I did not return to my normal routine right after having a baby. I had a c-section so I think that might have contributed to my "excuse" that I just had a baby but overall I think you are just one of the lucky ones that felt normal again right after.
I had sex at 4 weeks after but it definately wasn’t honeymoon-type sex LOL. It was more of a sleepy, lets-get-this-over-with type sex.
Mean People Suck | Feb 04, 2010
I actually never used that excuse. I did however tell my husband few times that I didn’t make dinner/clean/do whatever, because I didn’t feel like it after spending the entire day with Miss Cranky Pants.
Abby's Mommy | Feb 04, 2010
I was cleaning and doing laundry the next day. I couldn’t have sex though. It hurt for months and months and months. It hurt so bad that I would take Ibuprofen before hand and tried hard not to cry every time he penetrated me. I cried several times. I made several appointments with the OB, who told me it would just take time. It was about 10 months before it actually stopped hurting. It was probably another 3 months before it started feeling good again.
For those that had a c-section, that’s MAJOR surgery. I wouldn’t expect them to be up and about for a few weeks…..
Mom of Ethan and Sophie | Feb 04, 2010
I’m sure some people use it as an excuse, but sometimes it is a valid excuse not to do something. I didn’t have sex until after my 6 week checkup because doctors recommend that you wait until after 6 weeks to avoid infections and frankly I just didn’t feel like it. I certainly wasn’t cleaning house the next day. I didn’t feel like it and some things are more important than a clean house. Besides, my mom stayed with me for a week and she did most of the house cleaning. Then my husband did it for a couple of more weeks until I felt up to it. Most people change their routine when they have kids.
kat | Feb 04, 2010
I dont think its an excuse to just not do things, i am assuming this question came from my question you just answered. I think some women have an easier time adjusting to change and a new baby is a big change. Also I think each situation is different just like each baby is different. I wish I had the ability as you seem to have to just bounce back but I am enjoying each second with my baby and I sleep when he sleeps so its hard to get stuff done since when he is awake I am awake with him and when he is asleep I am also asleep. I am able to get the necessary things done but I have not been able to go above and beyond to make everything perfect like I used to do before I had my son. But good for you for being able to multi task your new baby and still maintain your old lifestyle as well!
LashCat is back | Feb 04, 2010
With my daughter, yes it was. We had a pretty tough time of it and I ended up with a fourth degree tear. It was hard to get up and down out of a chair, much less do any real physical work for about a week. Even then, my bottom was pretty sore.
With my son, it was much different. I was out of the hospital within 24 hours and doing things around the house the day after that. I hardly tore with him. I was tired, sure, but I got used to it pretty quickly.
Like the first poster said, every baby and every delivery is different.
MishMash | Feb 04, 2010
Sorry, but if my vag hurts I am not about to bust my azz cleaning the house. My son slept through the night like a champ since he was born…great right? Except he has never been much of a napper (an hour at most, twice a day) during the day. Which yeah I spend some of that hour cleaning and laundrying, but that’s my time for a break too.
My vag ached terribly (like I could barely sit on the toilet) until l was 8 weeks postpartum. I had an episiotomy and a rough birth and I didn’t do much cleaning during those weeks. I hurt too bad.
So congrats to you, but telling the rest of us that its an excuse isn’t fair or just. YOU didn’t experience our situations.
Bitches Get Stitches | Feb 04, 2010
I can’t believe you are saying it is an excuse
Sleeping for 30 minutes a day while you are in death pain and breastfeeding 24 hours..Piece of cake, right? Even easier when you do it all alone.
ILoveMySon | Feb 04, 2010
Having a baby is a big adjustment for a lot (MOST) of moms. The lack of sleep, the blues (sometimes even PPD), nursing, etc. So um, yeah. I used it. My body went through a lot, I was exhausted and my baby was nursing every 2 hours. Some moms have c-sections, which I hear is a long recovery. My husband helped around the house, and he didn’t expect me to have sex with him after I had an episiotomy. I wasn’t ready for sex until at least 8 weeks post partum. He also understood how much I hated my body, how gross I felt from the lochia.
So yeah, whatever. I used the excuse. You’re a supermom.
kirsten | Feb 04, 2010
It depends.
Each woman is different. Some women are strongly affected by hormones after having a baby, and it can last for days or even weeks. It can make them tired or weak. I wouldn’t expect a woman who is going through this to get up and clean the whole house in between caring for a newborn.
Other times, women go through pain after giving birth. Your feet hurt, your back hurts, you have pain in…other places.
There’s a difference between "I can’t bend over and scrub the bathtub or toilet because I just had a baby and my belly and back hurt." and "Could you hand me the tv remote? I just had a baby so I can’t get up and get it."
adrian<3 | Feb 04, 2010
i spent the last five months of my pregnancy under strict bed rest – that means bed pans and sponge baths. she was induced at 39wks because she went into distress and was fading fast. we were in the hospital for 5 days. it was nearly a week before i could get out of bed without feeling like my hips would disconnect from their sockets and with baby on boob 24/7 (she was six weeks old before she could go 2-1/2hrs between feedings), i was chronically exhausted.
she was about 2-1/2mo old before i felt anything like normal.
btw: i had her father at home with me, but of course he worked all day so was too tired to do dishes or pick up a broom.
and, oh yeah: be prepared for a rude awakening when you have your next child. this one was my third – the other two are nearly 24 and nearly 21.
threenorns | Feb 04, 2010
I suffered from bad PPD after having my daughter. I was also dealing with the fact my daughter’s father cheated on me when I was pregnant, and ended our relationship when I was 33 weeks pregnant. I found out he’d cheated on me when our daughter was 5 days old, and the girl he cheated on me with was at the hospital when I gave birth. So pardon me for not having the same experience as you.
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